Both myself and many people I love deal with social and conversational anxiety…

Both myself and many people I love deal with social and conversational anxiety. It makes going out and meeting people hard. I want so badly for people to just KNOW me and care about who I am and what my opinions are. However, so many people just want to talk about themselves. Even when I can tell they are genuine they don’t seem to quite “get” me. So I started this mini experiment. I try to avoid as much as possible talking about myself for the first conversation. I realized that if BOTH of us are just waiting our turn to talk then we won’t get very far and I’ll be stressed out the whole time. However, if I take one for the team and let them have their moment first, sometimes they are more prone to let me in, and it gives me some extra time. This experiment t has opened my eyes to how much everyone (including myself) is focused inwardly. And when I turn myself outward and put the other person ahead of myself, I find that I grow stronger. I know I’ll have my turn to open up and make myself known, but it is strangely comforting to wait a little bit and shift the focus off of me. 
Anyway, if you experience conversational anxiety maybe that can help you, too. Just figure out how to get someone started on their own train of thought, and hopefully that takes the pressure off of you for a bit.
Xoxo, Cindy 💜

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