Coming out is a personal decision and a big deal for a lot of people.
Unless someone is involved with you, they have no right to know and even less of a right to care what you may label yourself as. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of your preferences. These choices are personal, and personal should be considered private unless the said person decides otherwise. Our world is evolving towards acceptance, but there are still a lot of judgmental people out there. Not being what is deemed as “normal” can be uncomfortable and intimidating. If you aren’t ready to “come out” yet, that is perfectly okay, and please don’t let anyone pressure you into it.
Choosing to reveal or not reveal your sexuality is not a reflection of your pride in yourself or lack thereof, nor is it an appropriate barometer for deeming people worthy or unworthy of respect. To me, it’s not about labels; it’s about who you are as a person that matters most.
Your morals, how you treat others, your view on the world—these are the things I pay attention to when choosing friends, not whether they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. And your sexuality and your identity exist through your experiences, not in worrying about what people will do or think because of what you choose.
You know who you are—or maybe you’re still trying to figure it out, and that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel ashamed for being different, for wanting something else. Do what makes you happy, and grant yourself the freedom to love who you love regardless of gender.