My parents first separated when I was 13 years old. I was blessed to have quite a few women in my life who reached out to me and asked how I was doing. I remember a particular woman who offered to drive me home after a girls study I had been to. As she drove me back she asked how I was and acknowledged the pain that I was in. She also gave me a tidbit of advice that has stuck with me through the years. To paraphrase, she said: “Be sure to learn all that you’re supposed to in this time. I know it’s hard what you’re going through, but there are lessons to be learned that will be a blessing to you in the future.”

And she was right. The dysfunctional relationship that my parents had taught me what NOT to look for in a relationship and the way that they both changed their lives and chose to love each other no matter what taught me that love isn’t about what you feel, it’s a choice. My marriage is stronger because of the lessons I learned through watching my parents struggle.

So if you’re going through a rough spot, acknowledge the pain you are in. It matters. Whatever the pain is, though, be sure to learn what you need to learn. I promise there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel.


Xoxo, Cindy  💜

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